Dating after long hiatus
Amanda has counselled hundreds of individuals and couples, and, as a lecturer in psychosexual therapy and sexual health counselling at Sydney University, is an expert in the field.Here, Amanda gives some stellar advice to help new singles build their confidence and emotional health after a long-term relationship breakup, and navigate the new dating rules. Anyone who’s recently broken up from a long-term relationship knows how emotionally scary facing a new life – sans your ex – can be.You may feel nervous, lack confidence, and if you have children, the thought of having a new partner or dating again can seem overwhelming and much more complicated.But all of these feelings are completely normal, says Amanda.However, your appearance is very important when you’re in search of a new partner – and not just because looking your best is a way of getting attention!Both sexes are more attracted to people who take care over their appearance: by showing you care about how you look, you indicate that you want to be found attractive."This way, you will feel whole and in high self-esteem before you go back into the next relationship and won't just be trying to fill that hole," says Sherman.
Paula Hall offers some practical advice to men and women seeking a new long-term relationship.On the other hand, you might need less time if your relationship was very short.