Dating somebody suffering fear of abandonment
This is natural, but if we are frightened of what we need then this avoidance in itself makes us unhappy...'Fear of abandonment' is a bit vague, isn't it?Sam (see start of article) had actually been diagnosed by another therapist as having 'abandonment issues', but again this is too vague.Psychological and mental problems are often dismissed as not problems at all, which only reinforces them and makes the condition worse.One such psychological problem is the fear of abandonment, which can affect your life more profoundly than you care to admit.Sometimes, you’d be too scared to give your all to the relationship, doubting if the other person will commit with the same kind of intensity and commitment too.
Death of a parent or divorce might lead to abandonment issues which might continue to plague a person well into their adulthood.
Maybe you are too cynical and don’t want to get hurt, or you’re unable to face your fears.
Your worst fear being, being dumped by the other person.
It’s hard to determine what the other person needs to do.
After someone has been damaged time and time again, especially in the same way they automatically assume that the next will be just like the others.It’s a battle they can’t always control and an odd sense of insecurity within a relationship can drench them like a wave crashing on the shore.